THE SOCIAL RED CARD

In my last post, I promised to talk about social dynamics, groups and how they can affect your life. Firstly, let’s start with who you hang out with. The people you hang around can and will continuously shape your character. It is estimated that you earn the average of the five people that you usually spend most of the time with. Les Brown, one of the most avid inspirational figures in the world, once said that if you hang around 9 broke people, you will soon become the 10^th one. It is important to be aware of the people who you choose to spend time with.  One important thing to remember is that it is important to be around ambitious people, people who have bigger dreams and aspirations that will make you to seek to elevate yourself and your being. People who have goals and dreams are the people who know their purpose on earth. These are the people that face life with determination and positive energy in the attainment of a better and prosperous life. It is in your interest to increase your aspirations so that you aim to be successful and live an abundant life. However, you can’t do this if the people you hang around with bring you down or they are not for your highest good.

Sometimes we might stick in social groups despite the fact that we are not comfortable when we are around those people. Some people may continuously bring up your negative defects or some other negative aspects of your persona. You need to digress from such groups and seek only those groups of people who appreciate your positive aspects so that you may continually focus on developing those positive traits.

                                    THE SOCIAL RED CARD!!!:

The term borrows from the obvious football game where a player is shown the exit from the game after committing a serious offense. The Red card therefore can be used in social dynamics on friends who have pulled out a move that is in breach with good faith or something that is really disconcerting. People do all sorts of wrong against each other, but if people do certain types of conduct that is not in line with your moral values, religious values or things that you condemn or don’t believe in, it is time to pull up a red card on them! When I just discovered Mr. Les brown’s material, he advised to look into my circle of ten closest friends and evaluate how each one affects my life whether positively or negatively. This was a hard thing to do at first, I did not even have the motivation to start listing my friends down and start evaluating them. But trust me, after doing this exercise, I was more aware of who made the most positive impact around me and who did not. I encourage you to do the same, it is an important exercise. It’s better to keep people who are assets rather than liabilities. Evaluate your relationships! You can use the red card therefore to eliminate sources of negative energy that come in many forms including acquaintances, friends, colleagues or neighbors. You need to build on creating a circle that is valuable. Valuable connections matter in life and you can build your social capital from there. The vast field of Development theory and practice, also talks about social capital. This means social capital is critical for individual and national development alike. Social capital is basically the connections that you make over life which can be used to further develop yourself. Social capital allows you to grasp opportunities fast, allow the steady flow of information and can facilitate your business engagements.

Good Living. #Elevate.